This is the first post I’ve made since the loss of my son that isn’t directly about him, although everything I do for the rest of my life will somehow be either directly or indirectly related to him.
I was thinking about a man in a linked-in group I belonged to a number of years ago. This man had lost a son and had written a book about his loss and his personal journey. It was a good book, detailed, with scriptures to show what had helped him. Anyone, who’s lost a child has an urgent need to keep their child alive in some form, and also to make their death to not be in vain, and or to have some kind of a purpose.
Although at the time I had no idea the damage that the death of a child has on a parent, I had sympathy for him and was working through the book in hopes of giving my support. Suddenly he dropped completely out of the group and more or less existence it seemed. As I was very busy at the time with other things, like everyone else it seems now days, I didn’t finish the book. In fact, I don’t even recall the name of the man leave alone his book. I have wondered since then if he just gave up, if he didn’t feel supported, or exactly why he dropped out. There could have been a simple reason of course, but nevertheless, even if it were a simple thing for him, I’ve come to believe how important it is to never give up.
I’ve recently come to know a grieving mother who tragically lost a son. Justice is very important and most likely essential for any parent even though it doesn’t stop the pain. I recently read in one of her articles where she wondered if she should continue to write about her journey. Well, I’m glad she kept writing because she understands so much of how I feel about things. Connecting to someone who has similar circumstances is so very important; I’m sure there are others, and sadly, will be others. Grief of this sort is a fine line between death and life. It’s a battle that should not be fought alone.
I am going to post her Facebook page here where one can have access to her articles: https://www.facebook.com/Christiangrief/
Here is Jude’s book “Gifts from the Ashes” : https://www.amazon.com/Gifts-Ashes-Jude-Gibbs/dp/1498496725